With an average life expectancy believed to be around 80 years, it's not difficult to work out how many months, days, hours, or minutes each of us has on this planet. A gloomy start to your forecast, I know. But my point is, life's too short to get stuck in routines and arrangements that kill our joy. What would you change or remove yourself from if you could? You could discover that doing so is more feasible than you thought.
If somebody is proving difficult to please, then you have options regarding how to handle this. There could also be right and wrong ways of saying the words, 'do it yourself, then.' But maybe that's what somebody needs you to do. Perhaps, you could be a bit more flexible and allow them to take the reins briefly. Take the high road and give somebody a chance. Both of you could benefit.
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Life demands a constant effort to bring results. That's the way it has always worked, and it will continue to work in such a way. That's also why we feel uneasy when circumstances arise that encourage us to take our foot off the gas pedal briefly. We naturally fear slowing down or bringing to a halt the momentum we worked so hard to create. But try stopping something briefly and see if this gives luck a chance to catch up with you.
It could be natural for you to take personally the way somebody behaves. After all you've done for them or the support you've shown recently, they seem to have developed amnesia or perhaps felt you should have done more. But if your instincts tell you there's more than meets the eye regarding somebody's puzzling actions, then listen to your inner voice. The best support you could offer now may involve giving them a bit of time and space.
Chances are, as a kid, you did it. If you're a parent, then you've heard it. I'm referring to asking or being asked the question, 'are we nearly there yet'? Whether you're young or old, there are times when a journey seems to go on forever, to the point where we feel more surprise than relief when we arrive at our destination. One you've worked hard to arrive at appears imminent. A second phase of the journey is about to commence, but it promises to be easier than the first.
Even though we're taught as children to ask numerous questions, we can, throughout our lives, do so lazily. Rather than make an effort to find an answer ourselves, it can make sense to simply ask somebody nearby if they can help us out. But you might sense somebody gravitates a bit too often toward you for answers when they should apply their own 'grey matter.' It's in both your best interests for you to encourage them gently to do so.
There are times when it is helpful to aim higher than necessary with a goal or plan. We create a scenario that involves us coming in below where we aimed but where we needed to be. But at some point, a line needs to be drawn. We can't keep aiming higher and higher constantly. That concept might make sense to you. But it might not make sense to somebody who seems to think you're able to achieve the impossible. Help them to aim properly.
'So, what are you going to do about it'? That question puts pressure on us to explain or justify ourselves when it comes to solving a matter. We're not always obliged to explain in detail what we intend to do, either. You know how you can improve or heal a sensitive issue between you and a particular person. Whether pressure comes externally or from within you, focus on the action you know is needed rather than explaining or justifying it.
Clearly, coming up with a solution to a problem means it's necessary to stop adding to it. That means there's a particular momentum you must either slow down considerably or bring to a halt before you can take the necessary action to remedy it. The more you allow it to continue, the more complex it will become. Therefore, time is of the essence. Something needs nipping in the bud before it escalates. The fact that you're aware of the issue takes you halfway to solving it.
The truth, as the old saying goes, fears no questions. We want it to arrive and sometimes wish it hadn't. But it doesn't take us long to accept that we're better off knowing the reality of a situation than kidding ourselves. Something you've suspected could be confirmed with some degree of discomfort. You might also be taken aback by a revelation that comes your way now or shortly. But trust that either scenario will arm you with what you need to finally move forward.
How would you prefer change to arrive? Would you like it to arrive suddenly and offer little or no chance to prepare for it? Or would you prefer it arrived gradually? The catch attached to the second option means the desired result would take longer, but the circumstances you'd be dealing with would feel considerably more manageable. The truth is, you must accept Option Two. You probably know it to be the right one.
Out of sight, out of mind. No news is good news. There are times when we interpret silence as positive and a sign that all is well. But if an area of our world goes suspiciously quiet, then we're often wise to confirm everything is hunky-dory. That scenario might apply to certain people in your world you may have become distanced from recently. Sure, we all have our own story to tell about that. But trust that reaching out to certain individuals will be appreciated now.